20 Lessons I've Learned at 20: Lesson Six

6.      Never overuse “I'm sorry.”

 

 

 

So you went all Edward Scissorhands on your roommate’s hair in their sleep. Apologize.

 

You thought it would be cool to dye the dog’s hair fuchsia. Apologize to little ole Chunks.

 

You didn’t see a problem in scrubbing the toilet with your sister’s toothbrush. Apologize. (Props to you, though)

 

You said no to spending time with someone who contributes little to your happiness. Go you!

...and don’t apologize.

 

You fought to the end of the world for someone that didn’t raise a finger for you. Don’t even think about apologizing.

 

You looked the person that dropped your heart on your feet in the eye through tears within your own. Do. Not. Apologize.

 

We’ve heard time and time again to overuse "I love you." But overusing apologies has seemingly replaced the love. If we even stutter on a word in a conversation, we apologize. If we even slightly touch someone, we apologize. We are a society of apologetic people who try our damnedest to not make too much of an impression or an impact.

Don’t get me wrong—there are many situations in which apologies make sense, as outlined above. But if you pull through the need to speak softly and act gently, you will feel the pride it took to stand before someone. To stand before someone feeling vulnerable and weak. To stand before someone and look them straight in the eye and spill the pain you’ve tucked away inside for too long. This beautiful sight is in need of no apology.

Apologies have no place in a room full of strength and courage.

 

 

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